Your options... to postpone, cancel or elope?
OF COURSE, we don’t want you to cancel. We want everyone’s love to be unstoppable, but with a global pandemic we can completely understand and validate defeated feelings or hesitations. We are taking this case by case, but have only seen weddings cancel where the bride, groom, or their family members travel plans have been completely halted. If it is against your culture to not wed without your father present, or if your mother in laws work has banned her ability to travel we can understand why you would want to cancel. We just want everyone to know that this is the last thing that we would ever want for our couples and we will do everything in our power to work with every vendor to make sure that you don’t have to cancel your wedding.
And then there is eloping… which we are here for! We just want you to be safe. Where we are at with having 40 out of the 50 states sheltering in place, ANY type of non-essential work needs to be put off until further notice. So if you’re not in the medical field, pharmacy, or grocery industry we are wanting our couples to please hold off. Let’s remember that WE have the POWER to stop the spread of COVID-19. The pandemic’s exposure lies in our hands and we all have to unite to beat this so EVERYONE can get back to their new normal. Whether you are eloping with just your spouse, photographer, and coordinator, we still are expressing the urgency of waiting until after this is over. Stay home, please.
Family & wedding party first
So you’re postponing, where do you restart? We are recommending you start checking the availibility with the people that are closest to you. You can easily create a Google form with a few date options that you are considering and send it out to your wedding party & immediate family to see which date works best for them. You have to remember that getting a group of 20+ people to ALL be available on the same date is going to be close to impossible. Try to separate your feelings from reality and understand that everyone is going to try their best to reschedule to attend your wedding.
Be prepared to talk money. Everybody has been effected financially by this crisis. If we can’t conduct weddings, we don’t have an income. If you’re not an essential worker, you probably don’t have an income either. We understand. What we are trying to help everyone understand is that no body’s income is more important than someone else's. There cannot be ANY level of self importance when there is a global pandemic. We all need to pay for the roof over our head, the car that we drive, and we all have mouths to feed whether they’re our own, our children, or our pets. Please express your situation in confidentiality to your vendors and see what they can do for you. Everyone has a plan in place and I promise that end of the day, we ALL are looking out for the best interest of our couples. WITHOUT YOU, we would have nothing. We can’t run the risk of losing you. Don't forget to get a new contract or subcontract in place. Since the future is uncertain, ask what would happen if you would need to postpone a second time due to the same circumstance.
What’s weddings without attendees? Remember guests need time to rearrange their travel plans without a major cost or loss. Do not worry about disappointing anyone with your decision. Your guests are going to be relieved knowing that you have their health as a priority. Right now airlines and hotels are being very accommodating and everyone is very understanding. If you have a wedding where over 50% of your guests are traveling, remember postponing it will give everyone to time to restructure their travel plans and make new plans with their work and personal schedules. Don’t forget to update your wedding website and any other information outlets that you have sourced for your wedding. We recommend relaying communication via email that your date has changed, but also sending a new invitation out 8 weeks before the new date.
The US is not issuing passports right now, just as a heads up if you were looking to get one or renew.
We hate to even have to say this because it breaks our heart that people would feel this way, but try not to hold a feeling of doom over your changed plans. I’ll say it again, this situation is out of your control. This situation is out of everyone’s control, but you have to remind yourself that life actually has never been in control. The only thing you have control over is your mindset, your decisions, and where you are going to go from here. Don’t allow yourself to create a bad taste in your mouth over your changed plans. You can still have the wedding you dreamed on - it just has to be on a different day than anticipated. TAKE LIFE DAY BY DAY. When I chose to live a sober lifestyle I was given the best advice from a friend that helped me put my life and my decisions into perspective and here it is:
I encourage you to apply this state of mind to your life..,
Did you wake up today? Yes!
Do you have a choice on your perspective? Yes!
I applaud those are doing their best to live presently, in this moment, and with joy. Remember, at the end the day you are with the love of your life; an opportunity and feeling not everyone has & others yearn for. If you take this situation day by day without deep diving your thoughts into the uncertainty of the future, you can still find joy in the moment.
Hang in there guys,